Where Do You Dwell?

“I dwell in possibility.” – Emily Dickinson

We sat cross-legged, seven friends and I, a circle of artists, each in turn responding to a poem we had just heard, one of David Whyte‘s: “Start close in / don’t take the second step / or the third / start with the first / . . . ” I couldn’t see the next step in my life, the one close in. A tiny voice of panic was whispering to me that, at my age, there was really nowhere I could go from here.

Before I could respond, a woman older than I updated us on her health. She couldn’t walk without pain. It should have been discouraging. But, peaceful and relaxed, she told us that she was looking forward to all the possibilities the future held for her. It made me realize that I could choose to dwell in panic or possibility – only one provides the calm I want for my spirit.

Helen Keller said, “No pessimist ever discovered the secret of the stars, or sailed to an uncharted land, or opened a new doorway for the human spirit.” Dwell not in problems but possibilities. Nourish peace, cultivate loving kindness, and carry the calm.

Nature of the week:

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Shadow of the Week – a poolside table:

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Text and photos © 2016 Karyn Henley. All rights reserved.

Some of Us Get It Backward

“We are cups, constantly and quietly being filled.

The trick is, knowing how to tip ourselves over

and let the beautiful stuff out.”

– Ray Bradbury –

 

Some of us get it backward – we tip ourselves over before being filled. Be filled first. Constantly and quietly let the beautiful grow within. Then when you tip over, something beautiful will pour out.

Nourish peace, cultivate loving kindness, and carry the calm.

Nature of the week:

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Shadow of the Week:

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Text and photos © 2016 Karyn Henley. All rights reserved.

If No Birds Sang

“The woods would be very silent

if no birds sang there

except those that sang best.”

– Henry van Dyke –

 

You don’t have to be the best. Be at home within yourself, and sing as only you can.

Nourish peace, cultivate loving kindness, and carry the calm.

Nature of the week:

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Shadow of the Week:

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Text and photos © 2016 Karyn Henley. All rights reserved.

 

Throwing Beams

“How far that little candle throws his beams!

So shines a good deed in a naughty world.”

 – Shakespeare, The Merchant of Venice –

 

And so shines calm in a frantic world. Many candles are shining in our world. Look around, find them, and be one yourself. We need you.

Nourish peace, cultivate loving kindness, and carry the calm.

Nature of the week – from my Wednesday Walk at Cheekwood Botanical Gardens:

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Shadow of the Week:

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Text and photos © 2016 Karyn Henley. All rights reserved.

15 Words: A Kaleidoscope of Calm

Recently – and for the first time in years – I peeked into a kaleidoscope and spent the next few minutes turning the barrel, watching chinks of color and light split and fall from one design into another. I reminded myself that Bertrand Russell said:

“The time you enjoy wasting is not wasted time.”

Kaleid-1I had forgotten how mesmerizing a kaleidoscope can be. It was quite calming and led me to think that calm itself can be described in a kaleidoscope of words, each tinted with its own hue of peace.

In this frantic world, we need to nurture our own inner calm. Not only do we personally need it, but the world, too, needs our calm. So here’s a calm kaleidescope of words. May each shine a fragment of color and light into your spirit.

  1. Centered – In pottery class, we learned to always center the lump clay on the turning wheel before forming it into a vase or bowl or cup. Otherwise the piece is so unbalanced, it soon becomes unworkable. Balance is a good word for being centered. Centered indicates something stable that our life rotates around. The center is the fulcrum point on which our life is balanced.
  2. Settled – I like this word. It makes me feel . . . well, settled. It comes from the Old English setlan, which means “to place.” In the kaleidoscope of calm, settle means “to be satisfied with.” I picture swirling flakes in a shaken snow globe as they come to rest. Or falling leaves, easing into a drift on the ground. Or feathers shaken from a pillow, floating lightly through the air to a gentle landing. Let the soul, thoughts, emotions settle.
  1. RefugeRefugere in Latin means “to flee” and is, of course, related to refugee. A refuge is a safe space to flee to, aKaleid-2 shelter from trouble or danger. It’s a sanctuary, which comes from sanctus, meaning “sacred.” Sacred spaces were often places people could go to be safe, because the space represented a place of mercy, a place indwelt by the divine. Most people would not commit violence or retribution within the sacred space.
  1. Grounded – This comes from Middle English grundien or grownden, meaning “to set on a foundation.” Established. Fixed firmly. Again: settled. Calmness grounds us.
  1. Relaxed – We used to call it being “laid back.” Unhurried, carefree, stress free, easygoing. That may be more a personality style for some than for others, but it’s for our best – our physical, mental, emotional and spiritual best – to learn to relax, to make it a habit.
  1. Serene – This is another of my favorites. It comes from the Latin serenus, meaning “clear, cloudless, untroubled.” In ancient times, it was used to describe sky and weather that was undisturbed, so it’s a perfect description for the untroubled, composed spirit.
  1. Still – The dictionary definition is “free from turbulence or commotion” and is related to stall from the Greek stellan, to put or place. In that sense, it’s akin to settle. When we’re training ourselves to relax, it helps to still our bodies and then try to coax our minds to be still, to stop pinging toward past and present concerns.
  1. Contemplative – In Latin, contemplari means “to survey, observe.” It’s related to temple, a space marked off toKaleid-3 watch for divine guidance or signs and omens, which is why we call some religious thinkers contemplatives. When we contemplate, we “consider thoroughly, view with continued attention.”
  1. Tranquil – Similar to serene, the Latin tranquillus means “quiet, calm, still.” I always think of a mirror lake reflecting trees, blue sky, and clouds. A tranquil soul is unruffled, free from agitated emotions. It mirrors spiritual trust and peace.
  1. Quiet – A quiet spirit is “at rest; free from disturbance.” I think of a library, which may be quiet, but it’s also full of energy. In fact, the settled quiet of a library holds dynamic potential. What’s going on in that quiet space is nourishing hearts and minds for returning to the noisier outside world.
  1. Placid – I think of Lake Placid. Like tranquil, placid means pleasantly calm, peaceful, and unruffled. Interesting that the Latin word it comes from, placidus (calm quiet) is akin to placere, which has evolved into pleasure and please. It’s a pleasure to find peace and calm.
  1. Peaceful – This word is so common, we could almost skip over it. But its origins are interesting. The Latin pax is akin to pact, a truce or accord. So while all the other words (except perhaps refuge and solace) tend to focus on our inner, personal world, peace seems to involve coming to terms with the outer world as well, as we try not only to carry our own calm but also to interact with the world in ways that promote peace, or in dictionary terms: “freedom from strife, dissension, annoyance, anxiety.”
  1. Lull – Ah, this one sounds like what it is. It’s based on a simple phrase used in cradle songs: lulla lullay, sometimesKaleid-8 with by added, as in bye-bye, meant to soothe, quiet, and calm a child into falling asleep. A lullabye.
  1. Solace – We usually think of solace as the comfort we offer to someone who is upset or grieving. It comes from the Latin solari, “to console.” By carrying calm within ourselves, we automatically become a source of solace to the world.
  1. Calm – The origin of calm is interesting and a bit different from the others. Calm can be traced back to the Latin cauma, which means “summer heat,” with the “l” perhaps coming from calere, “to be hot.” Before air conditioning, the heat of a summer afternoon led people to take a time out, a siesta, to calm body and mind. Calm then became “a state of tranquility.”

Contemplating any one of these words helps me still myself and calm my spirit. I hope this kaleidoscope of calmness brings you solace and helps you experience serenity.

Nourish peace, cultivate loving kindness, and carry the calm.

Nature of the week:

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Shadow of the Week:

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Text and photos © 2016 Karyn Henley. All rights reserved.

Why a Bird Sings

“A bird does not sing because it has an answer.

It sings because it has a song.”

– Chinese proverb –

 

Poet and novelist Rainer Maria Rilke said, “Live the questions.”

No answers are necessary for your soul to sing.

Nourish peace, cultivate loving kindness, and carry the calm.

Nature of the week:

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Shadow of the Week:

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Text and photos © 2016 Karyn Henley. All rights reserved.

 

How to See God’s Handwriting

“Never lose an opportunity of seeing anything that is beautiful for beauty is God’s handwriting – a wayside sacrament. Welcome it in every fair face, in every fair sky, in every fair flower, and thank God for it as a cup of blessing.”

– Ralph Waldo Emerson –

Nourish peace, cultivate loving kindness, and carry the calm. The world needs it.

Nature of the week:

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Shadow of the Week:

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Text and photos © 2016 Karyn Henley. All rights reserved.

A Soft Sea

“A soft sea washed around the house,

A sea of summer air . . .”

– Emily Dickinson –

 

Breathe deeply of this soft sea. Breathe out heaviness, breathe in buoyancy.

Nourish peace, cultivate loving kindness, and carry the calm.

Nature of the week:

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Shadow of the Week – porch beams shadow each other:

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Text and photos © 2016 Karyn Henley. All rights reserved.

The Hidden Well

“What makes the desert beautiful,” said the little prince,

“is that somewhere it hides a well.”

The Little Prince, Antoine de Saint-Exupéry –

 

Nourish peace, cultivate loving kindness, and carry the calm. Drink from your well, then become one.

Nature of the week:

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Shadow of the Week:

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Text and photos © 2016 Karyn Henley. All rights reserved.

10 Reasons to Put Down the Phone

I’ve been reading Julia Cameron’s book It’s Never Too Late to Begin Again. If you’ve ever read Julia Cameron, you know she gives assignments. In this book, one of the assignments is to take walks each week without your phone. This resonated with me big-time. Now you could say that’s because I’m just set in my ways and out of date with the current phone thing.

(Full disclosure: I’m of the generation that grew up with rotary dial phones tethered to the wall. If you wanted to have a private call, you hoped the coiled cord connecting the handset to the base reached far enough that you could duck into a side room and shut the door – not all the way, of course, because of said cord. Still, unless you were lucky enough to have phone in your bedroom, it was the best you could do.)

But I do have a smart phone. I’m on Twitter and Instagram and Tumblr. I take pictures and check email on my phone. I’ve read ebooks on it. I tote it with me as I carry the dirty clothes downstairs two flights from the second floor bedroom to the washer and dryer in the basement. (I’m hoping to hear from an agent and don’t want to miss the call. Good excuse, right?) But I’ve also seen how the little screen that connects us to the wider world 24/7 can also disconnect us from the smaller here-and-now world that we inhabit physically. So when I read Cameron’s assignment to go for a walk without the phone, it hooked me. I asked why leave the phone behind? (Why is my personal first-responder on most occasions.) Here’s what why told me.

1. To de-agitate

You know that center post that turns back and forth in a washing machine? Right. The agitator. It stirs things up. I’ve noticed that constant online connection does that as well. At least to me. Leaving the phone behind for a while is a way to let the sediment settle and nurture the calm in my soul.

2. To not take the easy-out

Concentrating on the screen is like hanging a “do not disturb” sign on our forehead. Which is fine when we need to be onscreen. But it can also be an escape from connecting with the world in our vicinity at the present moment. We can retreat into the cocoon of online.

3. To become aware

So this is the opposite of retreat from the present moment. We get to pay attention and see the gifts the day has for us.

4. To experience with all our senses

Paying attention allows us to take in the sights, sounds, aromas, flavors, and textures around us. There’s good stuff there.

5. To connect with reality (not virtual reality but real reality)

Taking in the present world with our five senses lets us connect with reality and the emotional lift that our surroundings can bring. We enjoy the rain shower not because someone posted a GIF of rain slipping down a window but because we smell it in the air and see the drops sparkling on our own windowpane and catch the wet coolness in our palms.

6. To keep ourselves company

Since we can connect to the online world 24/7, we never have to feel alone even if we are – which can make it scary to put down the phone and realize no one else is around. But when we put down the phone, we have the opportunity to connect with our self, to discover our self, to keep our self company, to learn to like our self – and if we don’t, to figure out why and maybe what to do about it.

7. To process

News and weather and the latest trends splash over us in wave after wave after wave. In the momentary troughs between those waves, pundits and twitterers and bloggers and analysts process all the info for us, telling us what we should think about it. As a result, we never have to think for ourselves – what a relief, because there’s more breaking news that I really should be up on, and . . . enough already. Putting down the phone lets me climb out of the waves and find my footing on dry ground. It lets me process what I’m hearing and seeing and make up my own mind about what I think. (Another plus for keeping your self company.)

8. To refill our spirits

On-screen time can be draining. Lifting our eyes from it allows us to absorb the peace of the moment. Not every moment is peaceful; I get that. But most are. And the thing is, the more we recognize and soak in the calm, peaceful moments, the more serenity gets stored in our hearts, so that we can carry the calm into situations that are not peaceful, occasions begging for our calmness to add sanity into the mix.

9. To experience the uninterrupted flow of time

Time seems to flow differently when we’re online. An hour can go by when we feel like it’s only been 15 minutes. Real time ticks steadily and peacefully past. There used to be a saying about being so bored you were watching the grass grow. Sometimes we can use a bit of watching grass grow and flowers open and bees drone on, doing their bee thing. Inhale simplicity. The gift of the moment is uniquely yours, a treasure that’s yours and yours alone. And in a sharing world, it’s okay to tuck your moment into your heart and leave it unshared.

10. To prove we’re not addicted to it

I heard a news segment on the radio about addiction treatment programs that are popping up to treat . . . yes, screen-time addiction. We can get sucked into overdoing anything, I suspect, including the phone. Like a closet alcoholic, we say I can leave the screen, put the phone down, silence the incoming pings for a day . . . or maybe half a day . . . or an hour at least. Maybe we should challenge ourselves by saying, Prove it.

Nourish peace, cultivate loving kindness, and carry the calm.

Nature of the week – an air plant that blew off a tree in Texas:

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Shadow of the Week – from my trip to Princeton:

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Text and photos © 2016 Karyn Henley. All rights reserved.